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This population is the focus of his new and much needed book: .
I am pleased that Joe has written this book, as I have had to deal with these questions in my own practice relatively often, as have many other therapists. Number one is the high incidence of male-female couples entering my office because the woman thinks her man might be gay. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason he’s been looking at gay porn or he’s been having sex with men. I should probably state up-front that these questions are based on my clinical experience, not on any scientific research, but I’ve been doing this for a very long time and I can assure you that these questions are definitely on-point. I also use what I call the “beach test.” I always joke with clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walking on the beach and checking people out, the women are in the way.
However, more and more of these couples are deciding to stay together, mostly after the age of 60. Sometimes with bisexual men there’s a period of time when it becomes very important for him to express his same-sex attraction.
This is a catabolic energy (destructive) that tears your energy stores down and prevents you from being able to manifest higher levels of anabolic (building energy).
Last but not least, a lot of guys are into anal stimulation and they’re afraid their wives won’t do it, or they’re too embarrassed to ask, or they’ve asked and their wives have said no. It’s not gay or straight, it’s just your anus.” In other words, they’re doing this because to them it feels good. Do the men in these relationships usually want to stay together? Usually when the man understands this he can then stop the behavior, even though the desire doesn’t go away.
So they go find a guy who will take care of that for them. Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, either giving or receiving. And when the woman understands this she can start to connect with him on that level, supporting him and bonding with him instead of obsessing about what he’s done.
For you men navigating this world of I only share these observations with your female counterparts as a means to bring you both to a place of clarity.
It’s your health and mental well being that are at risk each day that you live hidden in the shadows of your truth.