Well, dating’s always going to be a crapshoot, right?
Email can be flakey and really, who knows what girls really want anyway, right? There’s no denying that there are no sure things in dating world; even the greatest profile in the world, with Annie Leibowitz taking the profile photo and Bruno Mars writing the emails for you will get nothing but dead air from time to time.
Moving from e-mail to instant messaging or texting is at least progress, but if she likes you well enough to give you her number, fine line between confidence and arrogance and between aggressiveness and an attitude of entitlement.
It is entirely too easy, especially in a text-medium to cross the line between confidence and acting like you’re The passive-aggressive version of this is what I like to call the “WHY DON’T YOU LIKE ME!!? When some guys are either met by silence or the girl seemingly has dropped off the face of the Earth, they’ll send another e-mail full of cranky bluster and spite-filled demands for an apology, explanation or some sort of response.
Yes, some of them times when you might be so damn charming that you can actually overcome the little pet-peeves she has that would otherwise keep her from being interested in dating you.
But sometimes she lists those deal-breakers for a be ignored; all you’ve ended up doing is wasting her time and yours when you could have been moving on to someone more receptive. You don’t want to propose meeting up in the first or second e-mail; after all you don’t want to look too pushy or needy. I can’t risk rejection, so I should just keep treading water until she makes the first move” is almost an axiomatic part of being a nerd and it can follow you even into the world of online dating.
So assuming you’ve been taking my advice to heart, you should be enjoying some profound success in the online dating scene and having more dates than you can handle. What if it feels as though all of your emails are being sent out into the great uncaring void?
Most guys don’t get a second date because they didn’t build enough attraction on the first date to maintain her interest.
well that’s not just a bad idea, it’s goddamn stupid.
Most guys don’t know how to act or be confident so awesome women want to date them.
I didn’t mean just skim the damned thing and look for something you could plug into your introduction e-mail.
Y’see, one valuable part of online dating is that it lets you pre-screen your potential dates.