The move sees victims become co-dependent on the predator, who is often a narcissist or sociopath.
The “honeymoon” feeling doesn’t last and as soon as victims show a small hint of not caring or prioritizing their partner, the predator will often reveal their true colors.
Joe Pierre, a psychiatry and biobehavioral sciences professor at UCLA, wrote in Psychology Today about why people can fall for a love bombing abuser.
He explained that narcissists can seem attractive due to high levels of confidence, ambition and self-sufficiency.
Have you started dating someone who has lavished you with attention and then things have quickly soured?
Chances are you could have been a victim of “love bombing.” First we had ghosting and then benching, but this brutal new dating trend is yet another obstacle that single people have to deal with and it could be the most manipulative tactic yet.
If it’s not working now, the likelihood of it suddenly working later is a bet you may not want to place.
– I firmly believe that people show you who they are in their behavior, not their words.
Something close to breadcrumbing, it stems from a someone being too insecure to face their own lack of self-esteem.When not helping clients fulfill their personal relationship goals, she enjoys the Colorado outdoors, capturing life through photography, practicing yoga and hopes to one day manage her first unassisted headstand. In the day when we shut someone down and stopped dating, we just did it. When a guy led a girl on, we just said he was playing her, we didn’t call it breadcrumbing.Benching may be the new fad in the dating world, but it doesn’t have to be the theme of your dating experience. is a Clinical Psychologist who specializes in the area of awakened dating and healthy relationships.If you’ve noticed a pattern of benching those you date, hopefully this piece has opened your eyes to what may be underlying your dating behaviors. She is the founder of Center for Shared Insight, a private psychotherapy practice in Denver where she and her clients focus on Individual Relationship Therapy. Hick’s expertise lies in helping individuals create healthy, meaningful, and loving relationships with others through healing, strengthening and transforming their most essential relationship, with themselves.