Dating people in the workplace
Those who enter into workplace romances should be aware of the workplace implications and challenges that such relationships present.
These challenges can, and should be, managed – and it is my opinion that most HR professionals and organizations should work harder at better equipping their offices to manage and understand workplace romance.
It sucks, but until we all leave to form a Utopian Society on Mars, that’s the way it’s going to be. “My ex-girlfriend would come to my office, and when I told her I was busy, she would get offended,” said one guy I talked to.
It’s important to keep your at-work relationship as professional as possible: unless you’re at lunch or in a group setting, try to limit the non-work related smalltalk to after hours.
If you insist on trying, do NOT pick someone you work directly with, in your department.A participant described: “One three letter word: sex.” Another explained: “It is purely physical and it could go on forever as both people are willing participants.” Throughout the years researchers speculated the individuals likely engaged in workplace romances for more than one motive; our findings support this early speculation.Interestingly, our interviews asked participants about their own workplace romances as well as those romances of their colleagues.Ask someone in a distant department, where it is more like dating someone you DON’T work with.Maybe you meet at a company function once in a while (but don’t pick someone who drinks at the pub with your group every week either).